14 Tips on How To Pick Up Girls at a Nightclub and Bring You The Results You’re After

Hey, there!

I’ve been going out to soo many nightclubs lately and I’ve noticed that the guys there have absolutely no idea how to pick up girls there. It’s mind-blowingly weird how they muster the courage for half the night then go for a girl, get blown out within seconds, and come back to their friends with their eyes on the floor. That or they’ll never even go for the girl and look with regret when she leaves the venue with someone else.

 

It’s pretty bad and that’s why I decided to share with you today my 14 tips on How To Pick Up Girls at a Nightclub and how you can implement them immediately! So without further ado let’s get right to it:

1. Go Out with Friends … Bring Your Wings

It’s alright to go clubbing alone (although, who really does that) but having some friends who can be your wingmen is a serious boost to your game. Suddenly approaching a group of girls isn’t a daunting task anymore and even if there’s only one girl sitting alone, you can always leave them for a bit. That’s why I never go with only one friend too, if I spot a cute girl and go to talk to her my friends can keep each other company, instead of one friend who’ll have to find something to do on their own.

2. Warm Up Your Social Skills … Call Somebody

If you do decide to go out alone it’s important to warm your social skills before you go to the venue. Many people believe that the night starts when you enter the nightclub. That’s incredibly WRONG. The night starts when you step outside your place. You don’t want to enter the club without having spoken to anybody and then wasting a ton of time warming up your social skills. Call friends on the phone, approach and talk to strangers on the street, talk to the people on the line in front of the club. Do this and you’ll be ready to seduce the hottest girl immediately after you enter

3. Know Your Drinking Limit … Don’t Collapse

I don’t drink too much personally, but some guys get more comfortable after a drink or two. Alchohol is great if you’re too stifled to talk to hot girls and need to relax, but you have to be aware. See, alcohol has the side effect of getting you drunk, and the drunker you are the harder it will be for you to focus. Interactions will be harder and you may not even notice when a girl is into you. Also, you may have a hard time getting hard after consuming too much alcohol, you don’t want to pull a girl to your place and fall asleep right as you hit the bed naked.

4. Relax … You’re at a Party

This is Crucial! You’re at a party to have fun. Don’t get over yourself and just enjoy your time. Trust me, a guy who’s having fun is waaay more attractive than someone whose sole purpose of going out is to pick up a girl. Women sense that and I’ve had conversations with a ton of female friends of mine who all agree that having fun is a thousand times better than being needy and not enjoying yourself at a nightclub.

5. Notice The Body Language … It’s too Loud to Speak

The facts are that the music is sometimes too loud to speak to somebody. You yell into her ear that your name is Daniel and they hear Michael or something. Perhaps that’s what happens to Starbucks employees… they’ll go to nightclubs a ton and their ears will be damaged, leading to them always getting your name wrong, haha.

Sorry, I’m getting out of track. So body language, use it instead of talking (and what will you talk about in a nightclub? The weather? Get real). Dance with girls, laugh, have fun, and enjoy yourself and you’ll see better successes.

6. Don’t Dive into Deep Interactions Early … Do So Later

I see many guys falling victim to this one. Being too game-y early on is a terrible idea. People are have just arrived at the nightclub (or are still arriving), the music isn’t as loud as at the peak of the night, so you might be thinking: now’s the best time to approach that hot girl at the bar… WRONG! She just came here to have fun and wants to spend the rest of the night having fun, not talking to some random guy who clearly wants to take her to their place and have sex. Early in the night all you have to do is befriend people. Go around and throw high fives and compliments at people, talk for a couple of seconds and bounce away. You want people to feel good about you and view you as the cool social guy that knows everybody in the venue (I bet you can see why that’s really good). Later in the night, when girls have had their fun and are ready to take it to the next level you can focus on one (or a few) and spend more time with her and maybe get her to come home with you.

7. Approach Warmly … Assume Familiarity

Don’t you hate it when you’re at a nightclub, having fun and someone just comes to you and says something like: “Hey, it’s nice to meet you, I’m this and that” and then continues to talk about something boring with you? Not to mention how weird all that is, right?

Well, girls hate that too, they are at a nightclub to drink, dance, and have fun. So don’t go to them telling your life story or talking to them like they’re your colleague from McDonald’s or something. Assume Familiarity! Go to her and throw in a “What’s up” and be casual about it. Usually, her friends will try to cockblock you if you approach her directly, but if you act like you know each other they’ll assume that you’re her friend from somewhere and let you do your thing.

8. Ignore Negative Energy … Keep Going

Now, it’s inevitable that you’ll get rejected sometimes (usually most of the times) and that’s fine. You have to understand that it’s not your fault and maybe the girl had a boyfriend, or she was into someone else at the time or some other stupid reason. The thing is that she can’t truly reject all of you because she can’t know everything about you. So, it’s not you. Don’t sweat it and don’t give in to negative thoughts, which brings us to:

9. Don’t Get Stuck in Your Head … Enjoy The Party

Getting rejected sucks, but that doesn’t mean that your whole night is ruined (or your whole life). It’s just a minor setback, there’s no need to analyze everything that went down and grief about it. As I’ve said maybe the girl had something else on her mind, you can never truly know for sure so, don’t sweat it and keep on going strong. At the end of the day, that girl lost a HUGE opportunity to be with you, it’s her loss, not yours.

Imagine the following: You go up to a hot girl (she’s wearing all black with a short skirt that’s glued to her body) and you approach her by assuming familiarity (as we’ve already talked). You chat a bit and everything seems to be going fine, but she decides that she wants to test if you’re really who you say you are (more on that later) so she says something like: “I only date black guys” (which is something I’ve actually had a girl say to me before … Outrageous, I know) and you’re stuck for words. Suddenly you’re not the witty guy you’ve appeared to be so far and she instantly loses interest in you and blows you out. Now, there’s no point in going inside your head and thinking what could have been if you didn’t act like you did or if you were prepared for something like that (I wasn’t at the time and it sucked hard). Just embrace it and learn from it. Then flush it out of your brain and go to the next girl: “NEXT!”

Another thing is that you don’t want to lose time. There are many gorgeous women at that venue, waiting for someone worthy and interesting to approach them and take them home:

10. Minimize Time Between Interactions … Or Don’t

This one is tricky. Some guys can just drink with their friends, dance and enjoy the night then see a hot girl and instantly walk up to her and pick her up. That’s great if you’re like that but for the rest of us, we need some momentum, some built-up. That’s why it’s incredibly important to minimize the time between different interactions. As soon as you stop talking to one girl look around for the next (or even while you’re still talking, that’ll make you look uninterested and make her chase if she likes you) then immediately go and approach her. This will give you no time to get into your head, you’ll appear more like a guy who knows everyone (which is great), and, to top it all off, you’ll have better chances of actually building up a great interaction with a hot girl and maybe pull her to your place at the end of the night. Sounds like a great deal, count me in!

11. Don’t Try to Be Someone Else … Just Be Yourself

We went over this one briefly, you don’t want to act like someone you’re not because if you appear too awesome girls will test you and if you fail even one test they’ll disqualify you immediately! As cliché as it sounds, you just have to be yourself. Pretending to be this super-cool dude can backfire tremendously and leave you with damaged ego for the rest of the night (or life… depends on how much you care). This is huge as if you’re not feeling great you’ll be less likely to successfully pick up that hot girl over there. And thus the more likely someone else will. That’s really soul-crushing and I just hate it when it happens.

12. Keep Building Up on Each Interaction … Don’t Lose Prospects

Don’t give up on girls easily. As we’ve discussed, sometimes they will test you just to see how you’ll respond. That means if they appear as if they’re rejecting you verbally, but their body language tells you that they’re still interested (women do that a lot) just stick with it, ignore their words and listen to their body language. It’s stupid to just leave girls just because they said that they’re only into black guys while dirty dancing with you. Just keep on with the interaction and continue building it towards the end.

Another thing is that girls know that they can get sex whenever they like so they love the build-up prior to that. They’ll tease, test, and then tease some more before letting you into their panties. That’s another reason why you shouldn’t just hurry up and play for the end result but instead, learn to like the game and enjoy it, maybe even tease them back (I love to almost kiss a girl and then pull my head back immediately, it drives them crazy since they’re investing in the kiss but then you’re kind of rejecting it and they start to chase for it). This is waaay too fun to not do in my opinion, which brings us nicely to:

13. Use Self-Amusement … Nothing is Final

Be hilarious. No matter what happens to use it to amuse yourself and make fun of it. She rejected you, say something like: “Ahh well, too bad she didn’t know I make mad cash/ I have a huge penis.” and brush it off like nothing happened. You’re at a nightclub to have fun so, do so. Be light-hearted and enjoy yourself. Free yourself of the outcome (having sex with the girl) and enjoy the process. I guarantee that you’ll be having a better time and that will radiate out of you. And girls notice these things, they’ll love it and you’ll see even more success with them.

14. Don’t Judge Yourself … Stay Out of Your Head

I feel like we’ve gone over this too many times, but it’s just crucial! Nothing a girl does matter, because she doesn’t (and can’t) know who you truly are. So, she’s not rejecting you, she’s rejecting the mood you’re bringing to her AT THE TIME. Don’t be harsh on yourself. Tell your friends that she blew you off because she prefers men with small penises who make $2 an hour and go to the next one free of any bad feelings. It’s really that simple and this gives you such an advantage over the guys who stress over every single slip-up.

Imagine the following: You get rejected by this one girl but you turn around and you’re smiling really hard, laughing your head off. People will see that and will assume that something funny happened instead of you getting rejected. Girls will notice that you’re having fun and will like you more.

Now imagine that you get rejected again, but this time you turn around and you look at the ground. Everyone can read the despair on your face and they just know what happened, you were brutally rejected. You sit at the bar and order a drink and drown yourself in alcohol because you’re sad. Girls will think that you’re pathetic and will never give you even a second of their time. And why will they? They’re at a nightclub to have fun, not to feel sorry for you.

“Damn, that was a TON of good value for my next trip to the nightclub”, you may be saying to yourself now. If that’s the case then I’m glad that I’ve given you some incredible tips on how to pick up girls at a nightclub. As I’ve said, I’ve recently been noticing other guys doing complete atrocities with girls in the club and destroying their whole night in the process. All I wanted with this here article is to not let you into the pitfall most guys find themselves and thus increase your chances of picking up a girl in the nightclub exponentially.

I wish you all the best, my friend, and just remember: You’re in a nightclub to have fun, so have fun!