How to Set up The Perfect Online Dating Profile as a Man
Hey there!
I’m going to skip straight to the point here: Online Dating is THE BEST. Period.
A revolutionary and modern way of picking up women, online dating is one of the best things to have happened to the pickup world in a looong time.
And rightly so, imagine the following:
You’re walking down the road going to the grocery store to buy some tomatoes or whatever and a stunningly gorgeous woman catches your eyes on the other side of the street. She’s carrying a bag full of groceries and is probably heading home from the looks of it. You stare uncontrollably at her until she notices. What do you do?
Obviously, you should go talk to her, but it isn’t as easy as it sounds, right?
She might be in a hurry to get home, she might have a boyfriend, she might not like you, and you’ll probably make a fool of yourself… We’re getting sidetracked here, this is for another article.
NOW, imagine this:
You’re sitting comfortably at home and you’re bored. You grab your phone open an app and start swiping on girls. BAM! You get a match with a cute redhead (maybe a blonde or a brunette if that’s what you prefer, this is just a story) she’s only 5 miles away and she likes rock music. Wait, YOU ABSOLUTELY LOVE rock music.
You decide to chat her up. She responds! Things are going well. She’s funny, witty, AND adorable. You ask her out and she accepts.
Now, that’s waay easier than the first situation, right?
There was barely any pressure on either person, nobody was embarrassed, and it happened all while in the comfort of your own couch. Simply Amazing!
That’s Online Dating for you. That’s why it’s great. That’s why I love using it and why you should too.
But that’s not always the case, I’m sure you know. Things don’t always go that smoothly and matches aren’t as abundant as other people make them out to be. Or are they?
We’re both here with one goal: to teach you How to Set up The Perfect Online Dating Profile! And I guarantee that you’ll find incredible tips, in here. Some of them you may already know, some of them may be foreign. But I’m sure that if you apply most (and all if you can) you’ll boost your online dating game by a TON!
And without further ado, Let’s get into it with the first tip:
1. Your Main Photo
The very first thing that a woman sees when the app shows her your profile. Naturally, this means that it’s one of the most important things to take into consideration. Ever.
Many people Fail Hard here. They put a random photo of themselves, a group photo where you can’t know who they are, or even worse: a selfie (I’ll take more about selfies latter in this article).
What you need to understand is that girls don’t swipe right a lot. She’ll only swipe right if she’s incredibly interested, and that’s not an easy task mind you.
Your main photo MUST spike her interest enough to make her want to browse the rest. That’s why it’s crucial to make it as good as it can be. But how do we do that?
It’s simple, really. Follow this advice and you’re sure to make a killer main photo that will spike her emotions:
Great Quality
It must be perfect. Your face must be seen without any squinting or anything else. Just get a good camera, a brand new phone, or even a professional photographer and get it done, you’ll thank me later.
Not a Group Photo
Your main photo is just for you. Nobody else should be there. She doesn’t want to guess which one of the several people in the photo is you and if she doesn’t find anyone interesting she’ll just swipe left. Basically, this only reduces your chances. Think of it that way: You don’t go up to people and introduce yourself by saying “Hi, these are my friends”. You say “Hey, I’m so and so”. Point Made, Case Closed. Moving on…
Something Provocative
Something that will be different from the thousands of others she sees every time she opens up her online dating app. You want to stick out. Like a bird showing its fancy feathers to attract the female birds.
Nowadays everyone just has a boring selfie or just a photo of them looking at the camera, awkwardly smiling. If that’s your main photo just delete it immediately. You can do so much better!
Do something crazy, show that you’re a cool guy, make her heart beat from the moment she sees the photo. Get her interested in you. This is your only chance, make it count.
Alright. So, you’ve gone out of your way to create the best possible main photo for your profile. A girl would see your profile, see the photo of you in a fancy suit with a stone gaze at the camera and a broody look on your face. The lighting is perfect, your hair is on point, she’s attracted. She clicks on the profile to see more. What should she see there?
2. The Other Photos
Your other photos must tell a story of your personality. Without words, you need to make sure she understands how awesome your life actually is and make her want to be a part of it. Here are the photos you should have:
Activity Photo/s
A photo of you doing something you love. Simple. If you’re a Dancer throw there a photo of you dancing. If you play football, put it in a photo there. Whatever you love doing, get somebody to capture you while in the action and put that photo on your profile.
Group Photo/s
Now that she knows how you look, you can put a group photo to let her know that you love being out with people. You and your friends at a club? Put it in. You and your friends playing board games? Put it in. Whatever it is, a group photo is great. Just make sure that you’re in the center of the photo. It may need some staging (or a professional photographer) but it’s definitely worth it. It tells her that you are a sociable guy and you know how to have a good time.
Topless Photo?
Now, this isn’t for everybody. You have to play to your strengths. Obviously, if you’re a bit on the large side you want to stick to the other types of photos. But if you have sick abs (or just an average lean body) and you’re comfortable with it, there’s no reason not to put it there. Even if you’re not a fitness model with proper lighting and camera work you can make your body look amazing and that’s definitely going to get you some matches here and there.
Note: If you’re actually a fitness model or just really jacked this might be a good main photo too. It’s provocative and if you get the quality right you’ll be swimming in matches in no time, trust me.
Do you have a pet?
If you have a pet it’s definitely worth it to put a photo of you with it on your online profile. Hell, I’ve even seen people with just a photo of their cute dog on Tinder. It works wonders because girls love adorable pets. Be sure to mention it in your bio below “His name is Spark and he loves to meet new people, especially cute girls ;)”. Which leads us to:
3. Your Bio
So, the girl got hooked on your killer main photo. Then she saw the photo where you’re dancing like a pro. She saw the one where you’re having fun out with your friends. AND she’s in love with your dog.
She’s desperate for more information on this incredibly irresistible persona. So she checks your bio. What should she find there?
Are You Naturally Tall?
If you’re over 6′ tall put that number on the first line. If you’re almost there put it again, maybe add an inch or two (heh). If you’re not that tall (I’m pretty short myself, unfortunately) it’s not the end of the world either.
Naturally, most girls like and prefer taller men. Naturally, men are taller so this usually isn’t an issue. But if you’re a tall guy there’s no need to not mention it in your bio and get her to like you even more.
Be Witty
Make up a funny story of how your arch nemesis from work was on Tinder and was boasting to your colleagues how many matches they got. You decided you’ve had enough so you made a profile for yourself and you’re recruiting gorgeous females like the one reading your bio in order to overthrow his reign and claim the “Tinder Master” title in your workspace.
Make her laugh, make her feel emotions, make her like you more and more.
Hobbies?
This one is a slippery slope. This is because most people write down their hobbies in their bio and it’s just boring. That is unless you have cool hobbies (or unless you write them down in a cool way). Instead of saying: “enjoys football, boards games, and traveling”, put in there something like: “In a normal day I’ll go to the field to kick a ball a bit. Then I’ll meet my friends at home and play the hell out of 7 Wonders (a crazy good board game, yes I’m a geek). BUT, on an amazing day, I’ll be with a backpack in another country or city, sightseeing and making memories!”
See how the second one creates a story that the girl can fall into and relive with you while reading? That’s what you’re trying to do, make her want to be a part of your awesome life.
A Weird Bio
For the longest time, I’ve used the tips above for my own Tinder Bio. One day, I was browsing through Facebook and saw a crazy Tinder Bio by some dude in my friends. It went something like this:
“He’s so great” – Taylor Swift
“Simply Gorgeous” – Playboy Magazine
“I can’t believe he’s still single” – Natalie Dormer
And so on… Basically, he came up with praises for himself and added a bunch of actresses, singers, and popular magazines. It was soo funny that I had to try it out. Well, turns out that it’s a killer bio. I’ve had a ton of matches after putting my own spin on it there and most are mentioning it in the beginning of the conversations.
So, if you want to do something crazy, go for it. The more eye-catching and extraordinary it is the better.
“Look as good as your profile!”
A friend told me about this one. Basically, he adds this line at the end of his bio on all online dating apps. He says it’s to filter the unattractive ones from swiping right on him and it actually works. It’s a bit misogynistic from one point of view, but it works. The girls who aren’t confident in the way they look will be intimidated and persuaded to swipe left when they read that. The good-looking ones won’t have a problem with it and it will communicate that you’re a guy who knows what he wants and how to get it so they’ll be even more attractive.
Overall, if you think it’s an alright addition put it in there. If you don’t, that’s fine too. I’ve tested it and it definitely works, so if you’re looking not only for quantity but also for the quality of girls. Put this line in your bio.
4. What NOT to do with your profile
When creating the perfect Online Dating Profile there are certain things you need to absolutely avoid doing. Since this is a guide on how to set your profile the best way, it’s important that we go over these in order to help you avoid them. So, what’s bad for your profile?
Selfies
Selfies are an incredibly lazy thing to do. They lack imagination, they are uninteresting, they are too easy to make and too controlled. You’re not the real you when you take a selfie, you’re controlling the environment around you and, most importantly, you’re controlling the way you look. You make a fake smile or something and it just looks terrible.
Selfies are for women. They love to take them and put great effort into them. But a man taking a selfie is just too lazy. A man shouldn’t have time for these things. He should be busy living his life to the fullest and photos of him should reflect that.
That’s what women want to see when they look at your profile and a selfie doesn’t give them that. So just don’t do selfies.
Another thing is that a selfie can be done alone. But for other photos, you need other people. If you have someone else take your photo, then you must be socially adept enough to persuade them into it. So you must be a sociable guy. This doesn’t go through most people’s heads but it’s a solid signal for women.
Politics, Religion, and other Touchy Subjects
If you have a strong opinion on topics such as Politics and/or Religion keep it for yourself. At least until you two match. Chances are that women can have a different opinion than you and a confrontation before you even know the person is a HUGE no-no. Just keep “Touchy Subjects” like Politics and Religion out of your online dating profile and you’ll get fewer matches that swiped right just to argue with you and tell you how you’re going to hell or whatever and more matches that actually convert into dates.
And with that out of the way, you’re now prepared to create the best goddamned online dating profile that will get you the matches you deserve and even more on top of that. Use this advice wisely, follow it and I guarantee that you’ll see a rise not only in the quantity of your matches but also in their quality.
Online Dating is HUGE. It’s silly to ignore this excellent tool. It may look hard at first, but now you know that setting up a great profile is incredibly easy.
Lastly, I view Online Dating like fishing, since it’s that easy and relaxing. You just prepare the bait (a perfect profile) you throw it out (swipe a bunch) and women just come out of nowhere (they match you). It’s Simple, easy, and stress-free. Brilliant.
So, go out there and create the best Online Dating bait and kickstart your online dating adventures right now!
