You’ve just gotten home from a first date with a new person. How did it go?! Not sure? That’s okay. Sometimes it can be hard to read the signs – did your first date go well or not? In this article, we’re going to talk about:
- Signs your first date was a good one
- Indicators you should call him or her back for a second date
- How to tell whether your date was really interested in you
So, are you ready to relive the evening? Here are the signs your first date was a hit!
1. The conversation was nonstop
We’ve all been on dates that were awkward at best. Past the small talk, there’s little to talk about with someone you just don’t connect with. That’s why good conversation is one of the signs your first date was a good one!
Whether you were talking about work, politics or the rain, conversation that is comfortable and doesn’t feel awkward is a great indicator that you and your date connect on a level that might just warrant planning a second date. Conversation that’s forced and uncomfortable could just mean one of you is shy, but generally if this is the case, a second date isn’t in the cards for you.
- You can tell your date went well if your conversation was natural and easy
- Awkward conversations and silent moments are not signs a date is going well
- It doesn’t matter what you talked about – what matters is it was easy to chat with your date
2. You shared a sense of humor
Did you both find yourself laughing at silly puns? Maybe you both like slapstick humor, like when the waiter dropped the tray of crème brulee. Whatever you laughed about on your date, if you laughed about the same things it’s one of the best signs your date went well.
A shared sense of humor is key to a lasting relationship. In fact, there are studies that say so! So laugh out loud and share those silly jokes – your relationship could be all the stronger for it.
- A shared sense of humor is key to a lasting relationship
- If you laughed at the same things during your date, it’s a good sign your date went well
- Humor is a great way to connect with a potential partner
3. You maintained eye contact
Ladies, you know what we’re talking about. If your date’s eyes are wandering throughout the course of dinner, there’s a good chance he’s only interested in hooking up. Men, if she’s staring at her phone and texting her friends, it’s a good sign she’s bored or just plain uninterested in you.
If you and your date can maintain eye contact throughout the duration of the date, it’s a good sign your date is going well! Of course, there’s no need to do a creepy stare and freak your date out. But if you’re looking at each other (each other’s faces) while you converse, it’s one of the best signs your date is a good one.
- Eye contact is critical to connecting with your first date
- If you look each other in the eyes, it’s a good sign your date went well!
- Don’t creepy stare – there’s no need to freak your date out. Simply look at him or her while they’re talking to you.
4. There was physical contact
If she brushed your arm while you chatted, or he pushed your hair from your eyes, there’s a good chance the date went well. In fact, physical contact is one of the leading signs of a good first date. Even if your knees were touching because you were sitting close by to one another, that’s a great sign!
Physical contact during a first date isn’t mandatory. After all, people’s boundaries of personal space definitely vary. But if there was non-sexual contact during your date, that’s a sure way to tell that it’s okay to call and ask for a second date.
- Subtle touching is a great way to tell if a first date went well
- Touching isn’t mandatory – some people are shy or simply value personal space more than others
- Touching on a good first date isn’t sexual, it’s subtle and non-invasive
5. Your phone stayed in your pocket or purse
There’s little worse than being on a first date and your date just wants to text or scroll through the news. And that goes for you, too. If you’re constantly fighting the urge to pick up your phone, that’s one of the best signs that your date is going well.
If the two of you are engaged in each other and your conversation, you won’t feel the need to rely on your phone. During a bad date, you may find yourself relying on your Twitter feed to break up the monotony or break the awkward silence. But on a date that’s going well, you’ll forget you even have your phone with you!
- Relying on electronics to break the monotony is common on bad first dates
- If your date keeps her or his phone hidden away, that’s a great sign!
- Engaging conversation and good company will make you forget you even have your phone, and that’s a great sign of a good first date
6. You talked about the future
No, that doesn’t mean you’re discussing marriage and babies on the first date. However, talking about future plans or dates is one of the biggest signs your date went well. Did you talk about going to the music festival this fall? Seeing that move that’s coming out in a few weeks? If so, that’s one of the signs your date went well!
If you want to “test” how well your date is going, you can easily use future plans as a litmus. Mention an upcoming event you think your date might be interested in. (Keep her interested – for instance, don’t mention a sporting event if she hates sports!) Then, see what their reaction is!
- If you and your date talked about future plans, it’s a good sign your date went well
- Keep the future talk simple – no marriage or babies just yet!
- Use future plans as a litmus and suggest upcoming events he or she may be interested in to gauge their reaction
7. You have a new “friend” on social media
Today, social media is one of the most popular ways for people to connect and keep in touch. If your first date added you to his or her social account – whether it’s Twitter, Facebook, Insta or whatever – it’s one of the signs of a good first date.
Before your first date – or any date – be mindful of what information you share on your social accounts. Many times people put themselves into unnecessary danger by simply sharing too much information. Where your kids go to school, your home address – all of these things can put you in danger. Remember, you don’t really know your date yet.
Once you’ve edited your social media account for safety, invite your date to add you! If they do, it’s a good sign they want to continue to keep in touch!
- If your date adds you to their social media connects, it’s a good sign they want to keep in touch
- Be sure you keep your social accounts safe – don’t reveal too much personal information
- Social media is a great way to keep in communication after the first date is over
8. You’ve already scheduled a second date
When you’ve prolonged your goodbye as long as possible and it’s time to say goodnight, go ahead and ask for that second date. If at the end of the evening you’ve already got plans to meet again, it’s a sure sign your first date went really well!
Keep it simple and within your comfort level. Suggest a movie, a hike or just a coffee date one afternoon. If he or she says yes, it’s a definite: the first date went well!
- Don’t be afraid to ask for a second date at the end of the night
- Your second date doesn’t have to be complex – just coffee is fine!
- If he or she says yes, that means your date went well!
Conclusion
After the first date, it can be tricky to tell whether the evening went well. Look for these 8 signs of a good first date and there will be no question!
