8 Simple and Effective Online Dating Tips for Men That Will Help You Get Results

Hey there!

Online Dating can be quite frustrating at times. I’m 100% sure that everyone, even the most handsome men out there, has had their fair share of struggles with online dating at one point or another.

It’s never fun when you go on a website or an app that’s designed in a way that increases your chances with women exponentially, only to sit without any matches for days, even weeks on end.

That’s why today we settle to end this cold streak for you by giving you 8 Simple and Effective Online Dating Tips For Men That Will Get You the Results You Desire.

And without further ado, let’s jump straight to the first tip on our list:

1. Auto Swiping/Liking Everyone … Do NOT Do It!

There are many reasons why clicking yes on every girl you come across can hurt you in the long run. For one if the platform you’re using has any worth, it will acknowledge this behavior and punish you.

See, Online Dating platforms are a business and their product is the program that shows you other potential mates and connects you with them if you both like each other. These platforms want to bring you the best possible matches, that’s why you use and pay for them.

Therefore, if someone is just mindlessly liking every girl that they are presented with, a good algorithm will take notice of that and destroy your profile’s chances of being shown to others.

Those other people want quality matches, not someone who will go for anything (that person is probably not going to be a good time for them either). A platform that values its customers (basically all the most popular platforms, which are the ones we recommend) will protect them from people who automatically like everyone they come across.

And if that’s not enough motivation for you how about this:

Basically, if all you do is swipe right (or like every girl) you’ll get pushed down and shown waay less. Therefore, only the girls who use the app a ton (basically the very desperate ones, usually those girls are low quality) will have a chance to find you. The gorgeous girls, the cute girls, the 10s… They will never get to see your profile and you’ll end up matching only the ones you wouldn’t go for anyway (or maybe you will, hey … to each their own).

 

All in all, just don’t mindlessly swipe right to every girl. That’s not to deter you from swiping right on 10 girls one after the other if you like them all but you need to dislike at least the ones that aren’t your cup of tea.

2. Set Up a Great Profile

Obviously, in order to get the results, you need to have a good profile (and this is one of the most important from our Online Dating Tips For Men). The good part about this is that, contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to look like Brad Pitt, have mad cash, perfect abs, and travel the world daily in order to be attractive (who knew, right). In fact, this part is extremely easy. I actually have a complete guide on How To Set Up The Perfect Online Dating Profile.

I’ll go over a few quick mentions in here, but if you’re looking to seriously up your Online Dating Game you should definitely check it out.

Basically, you want to have only good quality photos, nothing that makes it hard for a person to see clearly. You want your main photo to be one only of you, in order to reduce confusion. And you want to make your bio interesting and not mainstream.
All this will put you ahead of the competition, but if you can make your whole profile feel fluid and cohesive that’s going to get you matches like crazy. You want the girls looking at it to imagine a story. Your profile should describe your life and how awesome it is. The girls looking at it should want to be a part of that great life that they’re missing out on.

You may be wondering: But I only play video games and read books, there’s nothing interesting about that!

That’s completely wrong. I’m an avid gamer, who loves reading, and I also play board games from time to time. There are photos of me doing those activities on my Tinder profile and I get matches regularly.

It’s not what you do that matters, it’s how great you feel about yourself and how well you portray it to the girls browsing your profile.

3. Look into Investing in Premium Accounts

There’s a reason why there’s an option for Tinder Plus, or Tinder Gold, or whatever. Usually, Online Dating platforms are free and have several limitations like limited likes per day. That’s usually a thing you can work around (unless you literally have nothing else to do with your time other than swiping on Tinder or whatever). But the Premium options can actually help you out a TON.

Unlimited likes, while not crucial there’s always a time when you swipe a bunch then you find that gorgeous girl, you instantly like her BUT OOPS … You’re out of likes for the day… So, for those rare instances, I guess unlimited likes is alright.

The HUGE selling point of these Premium Services is that they push your profile to the top. You’ll be shown waay more If you’re a paying user. And that’s completely fair, those platforms need to make revenue so they need to give something valuable to their paying customers.

And if you’re not sold on that already, think about it: Women don’t usually go all the way to their last like each day. Hell, they usually only swipe for about 10 minutes and that’s about it… FOR THE WEEK…

A friend of mine told me the following story:

He Swiped right on a girl in Tinder in his hometown. Later in the month, he had to travel so he did for a week or two and then came back. A whole month after he came back he matched with that girl he had swiped almost 2 months ago. CRAZY!

He’s a free user and I’m sure that if he were to pay, he’d match her within a week, heck, even a day.

If this isn’t a huge deal for you seriously look into these premium options. They may seem irrelevant but they are most certainly useful.

4. Use Multiple Platforms

Until now I’ve only really talked about Tinder. That’s because when you hear “Online Dating” Tinder is the first thing that comes to mind to most people. BUT there are also other very good Online Dating Sites AND Apps besides Tinder (Shocking, am I right). There are also the bad ones, but usually, the popular ones are great and almost nobody even touches the unpopular ones, so there’s no need to worry.

I still wanted to showcase some of the best platforms that you should be using if you’re serious about Online Dating and want to get the most out of it. Here goes:

Tinder

Obviously… I won’t talk much about this. Perfect, solid, popular. Using Tinder is easy, fun, and carefree. You just can’t go wrong with this one. If you’re looking for only one platform to be in, look no further than Tinder. Simply, the best.

OkCupid

Recently I found this gem… It’s absolutely incredible! It’s got everything you’d want on an online dating website. What’s great about OkCupid is the amount of customization that you can do for your profile and the way it’s set up. It’s basically telling you to write some cool things about yourself such as hobbies and likes and dislikes. If you get a tad creative with it you’ll find yourself looking at a masterpiece of a story, brilliantly designed to take you through the life of this person on the profile.

As we talked over in here, that’s exactly what you want to do with your profile anyway.

OkCupid is also quite popular too. Two rabbits with one shot, Hell YES.

Match

Now, I haven’t personally been on Match that much myself but I’ve heard great praises of it from my friends and colleagues. Basically, it’s something in the middle between Tinder and OkCupid. Not the brilliant design seen in OkCupid but also with a deep enough profile customization that you can make wonders with.

It’s also quite popular too, so that’s great!

Bumble

The last one I’m going to mention here. Bumble is a solid rival to Tinder. You can’t go wrong with this one. It’s basically a second Tinder.

There’s also the added benefit that when you match with a girl she must text first, which relieves you from one of the most frustrating moments in Online Dating (because let’s face it, women never text first… NEVER).

My only problem with it is that its menus are not as intuitive as Tinder’s and it took me some time to get used to it. Nevertheless, one of the best Online Dating Platforms.

5. Take Breaks

As with everything in life, moderation is key. You don’t want to burn yourself out on swiping girls all day. And sadly, the online dating platforms are created in a very distracting and addicting way. You swipe one girl and BAM, there pops another one more beautiful than the last.

It’s quite easy to find yourself losing hours or even days (I’m guilty of this, don’t judge) in Tinder swiping and texting girls. And once you realize that it’s 5 PM and you skipped the gym, a hangout with friends, or even a date with another girl (guilty again) you won’t feel as great anymore, I guarantee it!

That’s why you should take regular breaks. Get off the phone and start exercising, or whatever you have to do. Also, this doesn’t mean, to stop swiping and stretch your legs a bit or something. No! What I mean is take big breaks too. Days, even weeks without Tinder.

Obviously, open the app to text girls but that’s all. Don’t swipe.

This may seem counterintuitive but just hear me out. You want to make sure your life is enjoyable to you. You want to feel good about yourself and wasting time on Tinder won’t make you feel good. You want your life to be great. That way the girls will want to be a part of it and therefore you’ll be more attractive and get more matches.

REVOLUTIONARY! So, give yourself a break, a pat on the back, and put the phone down for a bit.

6. What To Do When You Get a Match

Alright, so you’re all set up with a pimped out profile. You’re not auto-swiping and you’re choosing your girls carefully. You’re on multiple platforms. Great!

All that hard work pays out: you’ve got a match. And not just ANY match. She’s stunning. She’s like a model! So, what do you do?

Well, obviously, text her. In our modern world, it’s usually the man’s job to text first and lead the conversation. Sometimes it happens that a girl is feeling adventurous and texts first, but don’t expect anything more than a bland “hey” or something. Even though they can be quite creative and interesting, most women choose to go the safe route and never put themselves truly out.

That’s all fine, though, since as a man you should feel natural doing the first steps. You’re naturally the leader, the one who will take her by the hand and bring her on an adventure, your adventure. She’s the sidekick that will accompany you. And that’s exactly what she wants. So don’t worry about being bold and making a move.

But what exactly do you text first?

7. Openers

A boring “hey” won’t work. I mean, it could … but why settle for mediocrity? And most men open with a “hey/hi” or some stupid alteration of these. It’s boring. Don’t do it. There are soo many other ways you can open a girl and make an impact on her in order to get her interested.

Wait, what’s that in her bio? She likes to listen to Taylor Swift? Why don’t you open with a lyric from a Taylor Swift song? Maybe that’ll grab her attention. – Said the average guy after he magically matched with this hot girl.

How about you do something that the average guy wouldn’t? What I found out recently are GIFs. Simply starting out with a GIF sets you apart from 99% of the other boring guys out there who’ll either start with a “hey” or a comment on her bio.

Or how about something completely out of the blue? What’s that in her 3^rd photo? She’s in a room and that room has the most boring looking lamp? Perfect! Tell her: “That’s the most uninteresting lamp I’ve ever seen”. Who would have thought to say something like that?

It’s also great if you can ask her an open-ended question to get her to invest in the conversation. This way if she responds she’ll have to write something more than “yes/no”. She’ll have to explain something. That’ll subconsciously make her value this conversation over the thousand other boring Tinder matches.

So, give her something different, interesting, intriguing. Something that’ll make her feel captivated.

8. What To Avoid

Naturally, you can’t just spit random stuff at her, hoping to get her on a date. So it’s crucial to go over certain things you should avoid.

Boring Talk

Umm… Obviously… You need to keep things interesting. Otherwise, she’ll most likely just ignore you.

Stalling And Talking About General Topics

You don’t need to ask her if she has siblings.

You don’t need to know her favorite color.

Such fluff is just that … fluff. It’s unneeded, boring, and plain stupid. Just avoid it.

Also, make sure to push for the date. You’re on Online Dating platforms to get results, not make friends. This will show your intent and get her more attracted if she already was.

Being Her Friend

This ties in a bit with the last point. You’re here to get results. Go on dates. So, you must push for that outcome. Don’t become her “Gay Best Friend”. You need to act manly, show intent, push the conversation towards meeting out and then some.

Also, make it sexual. You want her to treat you as a potential partner, not her girlfriend.

And that’s about it. With these 8 simple Online Dating Tips For Men, you’re guaranteed to see increasing results in your Online Dating game. Now go out there and get some Matches and Dates.