Are you thinking of getting back into the dating scene after a separation, divorce, or the loss of a loved one?
Are you out there and finding it difficult to meet someone who compliments you?
And are you slowly resigning yourself to the fact that meeting someone new could be a mirage?
Well, I understand your plight, and I’m here to tell you that meeting someone new is not as difficult as you think.
Over 7.5 billion people live on this planet, and there are plenty of ways to meet new people. All you need to do is have an open mind and get started.
In this article, I show you:
- How to be ready for new relationships,
- Some exciting tips on how to meet someone,
- And how to optimize your chances of meeting new people online.
Let’s dive in already
How do you know you are ready for new relationships?
After a breakup, many people are less enthusiastic about meeting new people or starting relationships.
You may have had a nasty breakup or separation, but that does not mean you are unlovable.
Life’s obligations, career investments or age may slow down your pace of meeting new people, but that shouldn’t be an excuse of not getting yourself out there to interact and meet new people.
So how do you know that it’s time to leave the past in the past and make new friends?
Well, below are some helpful tips that’ll show you it is time to move on:
You’ve completely healed from your past relationship
Breakups and separations can leave you in a whack of emotions.
Depending on how nasty the relationship was, you may feel less confident and suffer low self-esteem.
If you heavily invested in the relationship, it’s undeniable that it’ll hurt for some time.
The beauty is, time heals even the worst of wounds, and as days go by, the pain will lessen, and you’ll be able to get over it.
Take your time and don’t rush the healing process. Mourn over the relationship, find out why it didn’t work out, talk to a friend or even go for therapy if you feel you need help.
It’s crucial that you ultimately get over the past relationship before starting a new one. That way, you’ll have more clarity on what you want.
It’s impossible to move on when you’re still stuck in the past. So, make sure you are completely healed before moving on to meet new people.
You are confident and stable on your own
There’s nothing as attractive as confidence.
Imagine if you met someone new today, and they depended on you for virtually everything. It sucks, right?
You don’t need to seek validation from your partner or hang out with them all the time.
At times you’ll need to give each other space to pursue other personal interest.
If your past relationship left you dependent on external validation, take time and build your confidence.
Make huge goals, and accomplish them. Take up new challenges at work and deliver. Travel alone, and try out new hobbies.
All these will build your resilience and make you feel confident on your own such that when you meet new people, you’ll not rely on them to make you happy.
You’ve learned from the past relationship
Whatever your contributions were to the failure of your previous relationship, you’ve accepted your mistakes and learned from them.
If you did your best, but it still didn’t work out, it’s time to let go and move on.
You should not cling on the past, but instead, you should use the lessons to make the new relationship better.
You love yourself and put your interests first
No matter how much you love someone, you should not forget that loving yourself more makes you irresistible.
Before starting any new relationship, make sure you don’t give up on you or your dreams.
Never drop those interests, hobbies and the things you were passionate about in the name of love.
Curve your individuality and let the person you are allowing into your life know and respect the things you hold dear to your life and can’t let go.
Tips on how to meet someone new
Now that you are ready for new relationships, here are some of the most exciting ways of meeting new people:
1. Dating sites
It’s arguably the most natural way of meeting new people.
You not only have a wide pool to choose from, but you are more likely to meet someone who you are truly compatible with.
With approximately 49 million around the globe people trying online dating, you can never ignore it as a means of meeting new people.
If you are single and quite serious about meeting new people, it’s time to try out one of the over 8,000 sites available.
To optimize your chances of meeting new people online, here’s what you need to do:
- Choose the right site that caters to your needs. Some sites offer more than just a platform for singles to meet. They go beyond and match you with people you are most compatible with.
- Make a killer profile on those dating sites to make you stand out. Use the right keywords, and be as exciting as possible.
- Post photos of yourself and describe those fun activities that you enjoy. It’s vital that they are bright and show your entire body so that those interested in you will see and accept you as you are. Someone would rather reject you for being real than meeting you only to realize that you are not who they thought you were.
- State your deal breakers clearly, and let the date interested in you know what you can or cannot take.
- If someone starts a conversation with you, be responsive and respectful even if you don’t fancy them.
- Avoid date´s who are interested in short-term flings, and always be safe online by not revealing a lot of information about what you do or where you live.
2. Social media
In this technology era, I bet we all have social media accounts.
It could be a Twitter handle, Facebook, Instagram, snapchat or Pinterest account.
Instead of using these accounts to show off your cool photos, videos, or your latest achievements, you could use them to make new friends.
One thing I love about social media is that it gives you an opportunity for interacting with people of all walks. You can quickly get to know someone from what they post or share online.
If after viewing someone’s profile you attracted to them, you can start by liking their photos or commenting positively on their posts then relax and wait for their response.
To ensure that you don’t appear too creepy, don’t do it so frequently that it seems obvious you are interested in them.
Depending on the response they give from your comments, you’ll know they are somehow approachable, and that’s a good sign.
To ensure it goes well, this is what you’ll have to do:
- If they are not your friends, and you only share a mutual friend, you can use your friend as a connection..
- Slowly slide into their inbox, and start a conversation. Don’t make it too visible that you like them and you want a relationship. You could start with general discussions and talk about those things you share in common and are both passionate about.
- Don’t impose yourself so much and avoid sending them several messages if they are unresponsive.
- Don’t rush things and only arrange a face to face meeting when you are sure.
3. Work
The work environment is also a good place for meeting new people.
Think about it; the average worker spends most of his/her time at work.
You’ll need to be a little cautious because some companies prohibit in-house dating.
If your company allows dating amongst coworkers, you can use the opportunity to make new friends.
Take advantage of those seminars or team building activities that allows colleagues to interact freely.
You need to ensure that:
- You maintain professionalism and not let your interests interfere with your work.
- Don’t appear so desperate.
- If you finally start dating, don’t bring your issues at work.
4. Church and charity activities
Apart from spiritual nourishment, you can get a partner in church.
That guy/lady sitting next to you during the sermon could be your future mate.
The only thing that hinders people from mingling and creating new relationships in church is the fear of being viewed as unholy.
Take advantage of those prayer meetings and retreats to tell that lady/man you’ve been eying of your real intentions. You never know, they may also be interested in you.
You should also not lose focus of why you are in church. Ensure that:
- When you are mingling with singles, you maintain the biblical principles.
- You always ask for divine interventions before approaching someone you are interested in or accepting to go out with a sister or brother.
5. Gym
Since we live in a society that’s crazy about keeping fit and living healthy lives, you’ll likely see so many people flocking the gym.
Gyms today have offered an opportunity for people to meet and mingle.
You don’t have to approach someone when they are busy working out, but you could take advantage of those breaks and start a conversation.
The beauty of meeting someone at the gym is that they are more relaxed and laid back without tones of makeup.
You could make the gym an exciting place to meet someone by;
- Arranging to come during the same time the guy/lady you are interested in comes in.
- Being real and not faking things.
- Dressing in appealing gym apparels that will make you stand out from the crowd.
6. Travelling
There are those companies that organize group travels.
Usually, such opportunities bring people of all walks together.
People are more relaxed when they are travelling, and it’s much easier to start a conversation during such adventures.
If you find someone interesting when travelling, don’t be afraid to start a conversation with them.
The tour guides who’ll be taking you round during your trip could also introduce you to their friends.
It’s important to:
- Have an open mind and welcome the idea of meeting new people and learning new cultures during your tour.
- Don’t give out too much information about yourself and save it for next time should the feeling be mutual.
7. Schools and adult classes
If you enrolled for classes to acquire new skills, you could also use that opportunity to meet new people.
You’ll be spending a lot of hours with your new found friends every week.
That will give you the chance to know the lady/guy you are interested in better.
Ask them out for a coffee date or a drink and share some quality time with them. The more you get to know each other, the more it will be easier to build a strong bond.
8. Parties and clubs
If you are single and interested in meeting someone, make it a habit of going out and attending parties more often.
That’s where most singles hang out, and chances of meeting someone there is quite high.
- If you are a lady, put on those sexy outfits that make you stand out but don’t be so provocative. Showing a little flesh is okay, but don’t go overboard.
- Guys, you also need to be at your best. If you see a lady, you are interested in, man up and approach them. You could start with general conversations, and later let them know of your intentions.
- Save the sex for later; there’ll be enough time for that.
9. Hobbies
Taking up new hobbies could provide you with an opportunity of meeting new people.
Attend meetups for those hobbies you are passionate about. If you love sports, you are likely to meet so many singles is such sports events.
If you don’t have any hobbies, take up some and make it a point of attending such events as it increases your chances of meeting new people.
10. Volunteer activities
If you are passionate about philanthropy and giving back to society, you could easily meet like-minded individuals during such events.
Since you’ll be spending more time together, it’s effortless to start a conversation with that lady/man you are interested in.
- Always make sure that you are compatible first before taking your relationship to the next level.
11. Friends and family
Never ignore connections. It may be old school, but hey, it still works.
You have that friend who knows a friend who’s single and probably searching for a partner.
Let your family and friends know that you are interested in meeting someone and they’ll easily connect you to their friend who’s also searching.
- Be open-minded, and treat those blind dates as an exploration. You are not obliged to accept someone merely because they were introduced by a friend and you fear that your rejection will hurt them.
- Take your time, and meet as many people as you can before you settle for the one you feel more attracted to.
Bottom line
Even if you feel that you are too old to meet new people or have so many obligations on your shoulder, don’t let life pass you by. There’s beauty in loving and being loved.
Go out more often and make new friends. The above tips on how to meet someone will help increase your chances of meeting new people and starting new relationships.
I hope I made it easier for you. All you need to do is be positive, believe in yourself and start.
